How
to control sexual desires..??
The
greatest of the passions given to man is of a woman.
Yes,
women is man’s one of the greatest temptations.
If
sexual passion overcomes the intellect then there remains no other aim before a
person but to extract pleasures from women; and while in the company of such
people possessing devilish attributes, it makes him un-concerned about the
Hereafter, over powers his religion and keeps him busy in disapproved acts.
If
sexual passion gets aggravated, it is difficult to terminate it. Further, up to
the extent, that a person does not pay due importance to any religious or
worldly affairs before it and this makes him uneasy and disturbed all the time.
On
the other hand, a person who cools down the fire of passion at the very
beginning – by not looking again at what he is not supposed to look at, is like
the one who does not want his horse to go inside a door, so whenever it tires
to turn him towards that door, he pulls it back by its rein.
And
the example of that person who wants to cool down the fire of passion after it
blazes up is like the one who lets his horse to enter a door and then pulls it
back by its tail and believes that it will not revolt.
How
much difference is there in the two examples as far as easiness and confusion
is concerned? That is why it is better to stay cautions in the beginning
itself. Also, it is very objectionable that the lust and passion overcome the
intellect of a person to such an extent.
Here
are 30 tips to overcome inordinate desires and animalistic passions (Hawa):
1. Where our Freedom is: True freedom lies not
in doing whatever we want to do, it rather lies in doing what we are supposed
to do.
2. What makes us rich: It is not how much we
live with but, it is how much we can live without which makes us rich.
3. Strong will: Desires are transitory they
will not stay, so have strong will to withstand them.
4. Sabr (patience): Sabr is a bitter fruit
and we must learn to eat it. This is the greatest of all the bounties in this
world from our Lord. If Allah gave us sabr that means we have everything and He
says in His book (Qur’an), that I am with those who have Sabr.
5. Be brave: Disobey your self and feel
victorious to defeat your false desires.
6. Think of the ultimate pleasures of the
Jannah (Paradise): forbiddance here means fulfillment there. Something better
is waiting for you in the Hereafter (next life).
7. Think of the Hell – fire.
8. Good Pleasure of Allah: is the most
important thing. Allah is happy with us. Real happiness is in the slavery of
our Creator and not in the slavery of our own sexual passion.
9. Sweetness of worship: of Allah is better
than the bitterness of sin.
10. We are not created to have fun in this
world; we are created to live eternally in the paradise.
11. Hawa is the fence or boundary of the hell
fire.
12. To obey Hawa is a Major Sin which destroys
you off.
13. Disobeying Hawa increases or strengths the
Emaan (faith in God).
14. In every society the most respectable are the
ones who don’t follow their own desires.
15. If Hawa wins it rules the heart as well as
the body and if intellect wins it rules the heart and the whole body.
16. Truth is always opposite of Hawa as it goes
against the nafs (your own self).
17. Following the Hawa is a disease and only
Allah can help us.
18. Open enemy: Shaitaan (the Arch devil) makes
an alignment with the Hawa to finish you off i.e. also an open enemy to man
like shaitaan.
19. It is most difficult to fight the Hawa as it
has shaitaan (devil), external factors, etc on its side.
20. Hawa
invites to a particular sin while shaitaan invites to any sin.
21. You are the master of the Universe i.e. you
are created for all creation to submit before you and not created to become a
slave of your own sexual passion.
22. Read
history and see that what was the end of those who followed their Hawa.
23. Fruits
of following Hawa: anxiety, fear, depression are the fruits of following the
Hawa.
24. Humiliation:
you will always be humiliated if you follow your Hawa.
25. Your
heart hardens if you follow your Hawa i.e. you want to cry but you can’t. Also
the heart compresses and you feel like dying.
26. A shirk: to follow the Hawa is also a form of
Shirk (the biggest of all sins).
27. If you follow Allah you lord your heart will
lit up your face will lit up like a lamp.
28. Also, the one who follows his Hawa is like a
mad man, who does not know the consequences of what he is doing. It will take
him away from the purpose of his creation – from the path of his Lord – his
Creator.
29. Appearances and Realities are not the same.
30. Inordinate
desires and animalistic passions lead to the Fire while self – control,
perseverance, chastity and all other virtues, and obedience to Allah and His
Messenger lead to Paradise. What leads to Hell is easy to do while what leads
to Paradise is difficult to do.
Is
it a matter of chance that the women nakedness which we all see around us? Is
it by chance that the print as well and visual media is full of filth and
immodesty? Do you think it is also by chance that the internet is full of
pornography? Is it all by chance or are we under an attack?
Think
again…
Narrated
Abu Hurairah (RA): Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “The (Hell) Fire is
surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded
by all kinds of disliked undesirable things.” (Book Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol.8,
Hadith No.494)
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