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How to control sexual desires..??



How to control sexual desires..??

The greatest of the passions given to man is of a woman.
Yes, women is man’s one of the greatest temptations.

If sexual passion overcomes the intellect then there remains no other aim before a person but to extract pleasures from women; and while in the company of such people possessing devilish attributes, it makes him un-concerned about the Hereafter, over powers his religion and keeps him busy in disapproved acts.

If sexual passion gets aggravated, it is difficult to terminate it. Further, up to the extent, that a person does not pay due importance to any religious or worldly affairs before it and this makes him uneasy and disturbed all the time.

On the other hand, a person who cools down the fire of passion at the very beginning – by not looking again at what he is not supposed to look at, is like the one who does not want his horse to go inside a door, so whenever it tires to turn him towards that door, he pulls it back by its rein.

And the example of that person who wants to cool down the fire of passion after it blazes up is like the one who lets his horse to enter a door and then pulls it back by its tail and believes that it will not revolt.

How much difference is there in the two examples as far as easiness and confusion is concerned? That is why it is better to stay cautions in the beginning itself. Also, it is very objectionable that the lust and passion overcome the intellect of a person to such an extent.

Here are 30 tips to overcome inordinate desires and animalistic passions (Hawa):

1.     Where our Freedom is: True freedom lies not in doing whatever we want to do, it rather lies in doing what we are supposed to do.

2.     What makes us rich: It is not how much we live with but, it is how much we can live without which makes us rich.

3.      Strong will: Desires are transitory they will not stay, so have strong will to withstand them.

4.     Sabr (patience): Sabr is a bitter fruit and we must learn to eat it. This is the greatest of all the bounties in this world from our Lord. If Allah gave us sabr that means we have everything and He says in His book (Qur’an), that I am with those who have Sabr.

5.     Be brave: Disobey your self and feel victorious to defeat your false desires.

6.     Think of the ultimate pleasures of the Jannah (Paradise): forbiddance here means fulfillment there. Something better is waiting for you in the Hereafter (next life).

7.     Think of the Hell – fire.

8.     Good Pleasure of Allah: is the most important thing. Allah is happy with us. Real happiness is in the slavery of our Creator and not in the slavery of our own sexual passion.

9.     Sweetness of worship: of Allah is better than the bitterness of sin.

10.   We are not created to have fun in this world; we are created to live eternally in the paradise.

11.  Hawa is the fence or boundary of the hell fire.

12.   To obey Hawa is a Major Sin which destroys you off.

13.   Disobeying Hawa increases or strengths the Emaan (faith in God).

14.  In every society the most respectable are the ones who don’t follow their own desires.

15.  If Hawa wins it rules the heart as well as the body and if intellect wins it rules the heart and the whole body.

16.  Truth is always opposite of Hawa as it goes against the nafs (your own self).

17.  Following the Hawa is a disease and only Allah can help us.

18.  Open enemy: Shaitaan (the Arch devil) makes an alignment with the Hawa to finish you off i.e. also an open enemy to man like shaitaan.

19.  It is most difficult to fight the Hawa as it has shaitaan (devil), external factors, etc on its side.

20. Hawa invites to a particular sin while shaitaan invites to any sin.

21.  You are the master of the Universe i.e. you are created for all creation to submit before you and not created to become a slave of your own sexual passion.

22. Read history and see that what was the end of those who followed their Hawa.

23. Fruits of following Hawa: anxiety, fear, depression are the fruits of following the Hawa.

24. Humiliation: you will always be humiliated if you follow your Hawa.

25. Your heart hardens if you follow your Hawa i.e. you want to cry but you can’t. Also the heart compresses and you feel like dying.

26.  A shirk: to follow the Hawa is also a form of Shirk (the biggest of all sins).

27.  If you follow Allah you lord your heart will lit up your face will lit up like a lamp.

28.  Also, the one who follows his Hawa is like a mad man, who does not know the consequences of what he is doing. It will take him away from the purpose of his creation – from the path of his Lord – his Creator.

29.  Appearances and Realities are not the same.

30. Inordinate desires and animalistic passions lead to the Fire while self – control, perseverance, chastity and all other virtues, and obedience to Allah and His Messenger lead to Paradise. What leads to Hell is easy to do while what leads to Paradise is difficult to do.

Is it a matter of chance that the women nakedness which we all see around us? Is it by chance that the print as well and visual media is full of filth and immodesty? Do you think it is also by chance that the internet is full of pornography? Is it all by chance or are we under an attack?

Think again…

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA): Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “The (Hell) Fire is surrounded by all kinds of desires and passions, while Paradise is surrounded by all kinds of disliked undesirable things.” (Book Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol.8, Hadith No.494)

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